The "FIRST TALK" - Toolkit
If you've been sitting on the couch at 10pm, knowing you should say something and not knowing how, these are the words we used. 3 real ways to start.
We were that couple too.
27 years together. 22 married. We've sat on that couch.
We had the "I'm tired" stretch that turned into a year. The night where one of us finally said something, and the other one heard a completely different sentence. The "I miss you" texts that didn't land the way they were sent.
We figured it out. Slowly. Clumsily. With a lot of "wait, I didn't mean that."
This toolkit is what we wish we'd had on a Tuesday night a decade ago.
Inside
- Three conversation scripts for the first three minutes, the part where most talks die. One for when you don't know how to start. One for the thing you've never said out loud. One for when you need to feel wanted, not because it's been a while, but because he does.
- The "What's the real meaning" Cheat Sheet. Ten phrases she says, what he often hears, what she actually means, and a sentence that gets you both into the same conversation.
- The Four 'I Miss You' Decoder. Same three words. Four different sentences underneath. Most marriages get one right and miss the other three for years.
We're Nadine and Niels. We'd love to help you find your way back too.